Hector and the Search for Happiness

Posted on January 31st, 2015

I recently watched the movie Hector and the Search for Happiness (2014) and found it to be inspirational, kind, and funny. This movie also made it to my list of recommended movies. This post contains a summary of some of the key ideas about happiness mentioned in the movie.

Note that if you have not yet seen the movie, this post contains spoilers (quotes).

  1. Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.
  2. A lot of people think, happiness means being richer, or more important.
  3. Many people only see happiness in their future.
  4. Happiness could be the freedom to love more than one woman at the same time.
  5. Sometimes, happiness is not knowing the whole story.
  6. Avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness.
  7. Does this person bring you predominantly: a) up or b) down?
  8. Happiness is, answering your calling
  9. Happiness is being loved for who you are.
  10. Sweet Potato Stew!
  11. Fear is an impediment to happiness.
  12. Happiness is feeling completely alive.
  13. Happiness is knowing how to celebrate.
  14. Listening is loving.
  15. Nostalgia is not what it used to be.

More important than what we are searching for, is what we’re avoiding.

Lecture on Happiness

And researchers just love to tell us, that money doesn’t buy happiness. I know what you’re thinking, how much do researchers make?

Everything in this world is going up. And happiness is going down, oh dear, oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.

How many of us, I wonder, can recall that childhood moment when we experienced happiness as a state of being.

That single moment of untarnished joy. That moment when everything in our world, inside and out was alright. Everything was alright.

But now we’ve become a colony of adults and everything is all wrong. All the time! It’s as if we were on a quest to get it back.

And yet the more we focus on our own personal happiness, the more it is useless.

In fact, it’s only when we are otherwise engaged, you know, focused on, absorbed, inspired, communicating, discovering, learning dancing, for heavens sake that we experience happiness as a by product, a side effect.

Oh no. We should concern ourselves not so much with the pursuit of happiness, but with the happiness of a pursuit.

Hetcor’s Original List Of Happiness

Taken from the book Hector and the Search for Happiness by Francois Lelord

  1. Making comparisons can spoil your happiness
  2. Happiness often comes when least expected
  3. Many people only see happiness in their future
  4. Many people think happiness comes from having more power or more money
  5. Sometimes happiness is not knowing the whole story
  6. Happiness is a long walk in beautiful, unfamiliar mountains
  7. It’s a mistake to think that happiness is the goal
  8. Happiness is being with the people you love; unhappiness is being separated from the people you love
  9. Happiness is knowing that your family lacks for nothing
  10. Happiness is doing a job you love
  11. Happiness is having a home and a garden of your own
  12. It’s harder to be happy in a country run by bad people
  13. Happiness is feeling useful to others
  14. Happiness is to be loved for exactly who you are (People are kinder to a child who smiles)
  15. Happiness comes when you feel truly alive
  16. Happiness is knowing how to celebrate
  17. Happiness is caring about the happiness of those you love
  18. Happiness is not attaching too much importance to what other people think
  19. The sun and the sea make everybody happy
  20. Happiness is a certain way of seeing things
  21. Rivalry poisons happiness
  22. Women care more than men about making others happy
  23. Happiness means making sure that those around you are happy

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